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Why The Happily Ever After Illusion Will Disappoint You. Every. Time.

I was recently introduced to the TV series, Once Upon A Time. I am still on season 1, which first aired in 2011. After watching only 7 or 8 episodes, I am already disappointed it is multiple seasons because I want to see what happens at the END – when they are all happily ever after again.  Some people don’t like to know what happens, but for some reason I have always been one to:

  1. Read the last few pages of a book after only a chapter or two into it
  2. Check up on Reality Steve’s blog before a Bachelor/Bachelorette season even airs to see who is picked
  3. Want someone to tell me what happens during a suspenseful movie scene
  4. Cover my eyes during 3rd downs while watching Iowa Hawkeye football
  5. Live for count downs
  6. Desperately want the fairy tale to be true

How did I allow myself to be programmed this way?  Why can’t I just live in the moment – enjoying the journey and unknowns along the way?

This world will get you every time. The fairy tale and happily ever after do not exist, nor should we want them to. We are continually disappointed believing in these empty promises and living in romcom movie scenes.  Here’s the thing. You can choose happily ever after. As long as you know that the ups and downs of life come with it. We are all a phone call away from tragedy.  From injustice. From all of the ‘not fairs’ in life. Recognizing and appreciating ordinary days is the key to true happily ever after.  But chasing the fake kind is a sure way to never get there.

My favorite Bible verse has always been Jeremiah 29:11 – for I know the plans I have for You…I hang onto that verse and know God’s will is so much better than my own. When you are able to let go, even if it is uncomfortable because you don’t know the outcome, you always come out stronger. You realize that you don’t know better and if you are just patient the story starts to come together – and you begin to see why all the pieces were needed.

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